It's not fair

Along with "It must be fantastic to have breasts," another though that frequently pops up in my head when a I see a woman with particularly attractive breasts is "It's not fair."

I'm not exactly sure why this thought passes through my head so often. When I think about it, I don't know what I think is not fair about it. I think it has to do with feeling that it is not fair that a woman can be so beautiful and so immediately completely and absolutely distract me from what I was doing or thinking at that moment. All she has to do to turn me into a quivering mess is to show me her breasts. They don't even have to be completely exposed. Sometimes they can be completely covered but their shape is really obvious or it is really obvious they are not restrained by a bra or the woman is just wearing a very revealing top.

Now, before you women from all over the globe run at me and tear me to pieces with screams of "We'll tell you what's not fair," I'd like to say a couple of things in my defence. Firstly, this is not a rational thought. Of course in my rational mind I think it is fair that women are women. More than this, in both my rational and emotional selves, I think it is grossly unfair how women are treated for being women. I think it is grossly unfair that we men focus on women's bodies to exclusion of all other parts of their existence. I get angry about this. I get angry with myself sometimes.

Secondly, this is the way it is and this blog is about telling it the way it is. I'm not saying it is the way it should be but my heartfelt belief and hope in writing this blog is that we can only change the way it is iff we are really honest about the way it is.

I'd like it if I wasn't a lone voice. I'd like to see other men talk about how they really feel about breasts. I'd like to know what other men really feel about breasts. I can guess that a lot of what they think is similar to what I think and their emotional reaction is similar to mine, but I don't really know.

Anyone out there want to try?